A Mindful Matter: Stop Doubting Yourself - [website] Email Print
Published: 12th of May 2023 by: Shona Beukes

Are you allowing your self-doubt and limiting beliefs to hold you back? I get it, truth is it's something most, if not all of us, have had to face at some point in our lives.

A little self-doubt never hurt anyone; it can serve as good motivation in some cases and form a necessary part of personal growth and achievement... But when left unchecked and given free reign - it will be just like the weeds that take over your flowerbeds or veggie patches, sapping the soil of nutrients and growing, spreading, until it has completely taken over. The end result? Your confidence will be at an all time low, you'll find you doubt yourself and your abilities at every turn.

Even Shakespeare had something to say about it...
"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt."

So, how can we overcome our self-doubt and move forward confidently?

The number one thing to do, is to stop your negative self-talk! It's time to realise that your inner critic is not always right and can be your worst enemy. Doubt your doubts!

Unfortunately, negative self-talk can become a nasty little habit that is hard to break... So be prepared, it will take effort and commitment from your side.

A good place to start is to pay attention to your thoughts. Catch yourself mid negative thought? Course-correct and choose to change that thought into something positive about yourself or the situation.

Here's an example.

"I'm not smart enough to do this"

Can become:

"This is a great opportunity for me to learn something new"

The second tip to help you overcome your self-doubt is this: Take back the power!

Embrace the fear and doubt, then do it anyway... There's nothing quite like achieving something you thought impossible or out of your reach to boost your self-confidence.

Tip 3.

Write it down. Your accomplishments, everything you've achieved in your personal and professional life. My dad actually taught me this little trick... Haha, Go Dad!

Chances are that you'll want to stop as soon as you realise it could be a really long list, this should already be enough to put it into perspective... But we're going to take it one step further. I want you to now look at that list and try and remember how you felt before you achieved what you wrote down, you'll probably realise that there were feelings of doubt or fear present. Yet, you did it anyway...

I'll say that again: YOU DID IT.

So please, stop selling yourself short!

To conclude, I would like to quote Dr Margie Warrel.
"How do we banish self-doubt? We don't. Rather we learn how to reclaim the power it has held over us"

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