“Confidence is like a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it gets.”
Confidence is a major part of how we approach different situations and people. We’ve all admired that one person in our group of friends, that co-worker, or that lady walking past us in the mall who seems to naturally exude confidence.
You'll be surprised how easy it is to be more confident
, it all starts with how you appear on the outside
Have you heard the phrase: fake it till you make it
? Even if you don’t feel it, confidence can still be portrayed.
The great thing about the “fake it till you make it” approach is that with the response you get from others, you’ll start truly feeling confident
on the inside too. You’re basically tricking your body and brain.
For more information you can Google Amy Cuddy Ted Talks
. Her topic is “Your body language may shape who you are”
There are so many factors
when it comes to confidence. Body-language, how we speak and how we treat other people can influence how people perceive us.
Let’s take a look at 3 quick and easy steps to adopt today:
1. Chin up!
It’s become such a habit for us, as stressed human beings, to look down at the floor while walking. Whether we’re walking into the boardroom for our next meeting or walking down the street, we tend to look at our feet, lost in thought.
Focus on keeping your head up, make eye contact with people around you and don’t be afraid of flashing a smile! Walk with your head held high.
2. Eye contact
Making eye contact is very important! When I observe people around me, whether in a meeting or social setting, I tend to notice whether they are making eye contact with the people they are conversing with.
Avoiding eye contact instantly makes you look insecure and unsure.
We are not talking about stare downs with every person who walks past you on the street, but don’t be afraid of looking people in the eye!
Make eye contact when you’re presenting a new idea, when you’re telling someone how great your weekend was and especially with your “audience” during your next presentation. Not only does this make people think you are a super confident person, but it also helps you to connect with your audience.
3. Stand tall
Slouchy shoulders and crossed arms are a big no-no; not only do you look insecure, but the crossed arms also act as a shield
between you and people you are talking to. It makes you appear unapproachable and closed off to those you are chatting with.
Standing tall plays a large role in appearing confident!
I challenge you to try out these 3 steps this week
. You’ll soon find that by using the “fake it till you make it’ approach, you can trick your body and brain into feeling more confident, and that’s the actual goal!
Believe in yourself and your abilities
, do not limit yourself with negative thoughts. Stay positive and remember: you only have to get up one more time than what you fall down to be a winner!
Practice it and let us know how it goes!
Staff Training is a soft skills training provider. Contact us at 0861 996 660.