One of the main reasons people tend to shy away from assertive
behaviour is because they are worried about coming across as aggressive, bossy, or even just plain rude.
Assertiveness, however, is about being able to recognise when you are being abused or manipulated for someone else's benefit and then being able to resist such treatment without becoming angry or aggressive
therefore emphasises the values of clear, calm and frank communication
so when that little voice in your head is saying "no", instead of keeping quiet you're able to voice it.
Assertive, Passive and Aggressive
The difference between assertive people and passive people is that while they both may know themselves and their boundaries, only the assertive group is able to clearly communicate these
to their co-workers. Aggressive people on the other hand may be communicating their boundaries a little bit too forcefully
and in the process might be encroaching on yours.
Learning to be more assertive helps individuals identify these problem situations
and teaches them to react accordingly, in a calm and rational way in order to bring about the best possible outcome
In addition to this Assertiveness Training
has also benefited supervisors, managers and other people in positions of authority
who have had the need to persuade others to follow their instructions without wanting to become a bully
Either way becoming more assertive
can help make life a lot less stressful
by removing the pressure of having to try to please everyone, which allows you to focus on the important things.